Many times we have to come to realize that life doesn’t always turn out the way we want. That’s the truth, and sometimes the truth is painful.
We do the jobs we don’t like, work with ignorant or dominated colleagues, have dictator boss, unbearable workloads, not have enough money to fulfill daily needs, have selfish partner, the family who doesn’t support, and many other examples.
What makes it worse is when we have given our best, many efforts have been attempted, yet the results don’t show good signs.
I’ve been through that kind of situation. It made me realize that dream does come true, but so does a nightmare. The accumulation of those situations dragged me to stressful conditions. It was like – hopeless.
How Did I Deal with That?
That wasn’t easy at all. What made it hard? Seemed like the situation didn’t get any easier. And what made it even harder? Myself – the way I respond to all those situations.
Many of us have the same situation. We’re on the same boat. We dislike ourselves, blame the condition, blame other people, or regret our decisions.
But if we keep doing that, we won’t go anywhere. We’re going to be stuck forever. Is that what we want? If your answer is no, then we must start from where we are. How?
1. Accept Yourself
No one is perfect. Even the brightest person in this world still has a dark side. Those perfect-look people with perfect-look life you see on your social media, they only show you what they want to show and what they want you to know. And it’s always the bright side of their life.
I know it may be intimidating or makes us jealous. But you don’t have any idea what they have been through or the pain they have to accept to get there.
If beauty is what matters, there should’ve been no divorce or breaking-up in the relationship of a perfect couple. If wealth is important, there should’ve been no suicide committed by rich people.
If perfection is what they have, those who look perfect will stay right where they are. No need to post anything to catch other people’s attention, or to get other people’s acceptance. But the facts show otherwise.
So, accept yourself, your flaws, your imperfections. They are a part of you.
It’s okay to make mistakes, to feel weak, to be sad, to feel upset, to feel bored, to get down. Feel it, but don’t stay there. Those are parts of life. So, you’ve got to move on.
Accept the whole you, the bright side and the dark side. The only person that can help you is yourself.
2. Let Go What’s Beyond Your Control
Sometimes life can be unfair. There are people who don’t like us no matter how kind we are or how good the things we’ve done. There are people who don’t treat us the way we expect them to. There are also things that don’t work the way we hope them to. And those are normal.
Those happen in our lives. Those are things beyond our control. We can’t force someone to like us. We won’t be able to turn back time. We can’t expect life to always be nice to us. Life is the day and the night, the ups and downs, the “hello” and “goodbye”. It keeps going on in a circle.
Accept your journey. Accept everything that happens in your life. Those things make you who you are, make you strong and better than before.
3. Start with What You Have
The best time is now. If you want to start something to have a better life to be a better version of yourself, start it right now. Do you want to make up your long-abandoned relationship with certain people? Do it now. Call them.
Do you want to start your own business? Do it now! Start your plan. Do you want to be more productive? Start with making your bed, now. Now is the only time we have. And, we don’t know how long “now” we have in this life.
The best person you need to start anything with is yourself. The place where you should be is starting from where you are right now. You’ve got everything in you, so take the chance, now. The stressful situation won’t go away if you don’t do anything about it. The decision is on you